Susan - I never said having CAH is easy, my heart goes out to Ian, can you not see that.  I totally agree with you, but Ian is going through such a hard time at the moment, that is may be affecting his sex drive. Did I not say have some more tests??  All I am doing is hoping that this meeting will help him with this. No I do not have CAH but I was raped when I was a child - not just photos or by a medical person looking and I know how these things can destroy you, if you let them.  You have to try to put them at the back of your mind, I speak from that experience, does that qualify?  I have a child with CAH. Sorry you took it the wrong way.