Ian,

     I am very sorry for what you are going through. I know this is the heartache of a lifetime because I have been through a cheating spouse myself. We are still together three years later but it has been a struggle every day. I was married for 24 years, have two great teenagers and did not see this coming at all. I stayed with my husband only because of my kids. Counciling did not help as their great advice is it is in the past put it behind you and get on with your life, wish someone could explain how you do that. My husband is no longer someone I can rely on. I would have been better off to let him go I am not sure my kids would have been better off without theirDad. Will keep you in my prayers. Best wishes to you and your little one.