Dear Cherry,

The "she should of been a boy" maybe this GM is more comfortable when it comes to doing the GM part w/ her Grandsons? Maybe she was always like this?

Being excluded does hurt - My sister and sister-in-law only wanted me around to babysit their children. Good enough to baby sit but in never made aware of or invited to any family functions or outings... shoping together nope. My sister said the same thing that she always thought we would get closer when we got older also which maybe she really meant but not close than except for being her baby sitter and even father apart now. I was the adopted child with that "problem"

Or this could be something where they keep her at a distance because they lost her mother and are afraid to get close for fear of the same thing? Mitzi is such a pretty little girl....A little doll - model stuff maybe she reminds them of her mother they feel the loss when they see her -Mitzi picks up on it and wants to go home to you. Nobody wants to stay at a place where they don’t feel a part of. I have memories of being at one aunt where I served them coffee - i was put to work. No love you and no hugs ...it sucked.

Just fill her life with doing things- Girl Scouts, Soccer, volunteering and the like.

Teach her patience for those that may be uncomfortable around any conditions.

I used to go out of my way to call and send cards to relatives and never got the same in return - It hurt for a long time and felt like dirt.

Their reasons for excluding her are their problem and not hers....she has a beautiful life to live and not to waste it trying to make relatives like her that might never will.

all the best-