Thank you all for your kind words of support....... I have weighed all the options and taken your suggestions  very serious. I am just so perplexed at these actions. I understand her fear of getting attached and loving Maritza and possibly losing again the child of her dead daughter. I ALWAYS try and put the shoe on the other foot and ask myself what would I do...but in this instance I cannot find answers. I guess it is too close to the heart. For the present time I have no choice but to console her little heart and feelings and double up on the love on our end. I am trying not to harbor any anger and remain civil for both of my Grandchildrens  benefit. I do resent the fact that they NEVER offered any assistance with the children and they have all the privelege’s a Grandparent has with none of the responsibility. THIS IS MY ISSUE and I am working on it. But the rejection part just hurts me to the core. Again ...... Thanks for the advice and your support on this painful process of wanting it all for my Mitzi.

Cherry