I do daycare also and I know just what you mean. My kids are not perfect and wouldn’t ever be called that but they do know I am the adult and they need to do what I say.

 

I have had parents bring their kids in the winter with no coat, hat, gloves or such because "They didn’t want to wear them". Whatever, there has to be an adult in their house somewhere. These are the same kids who’s parents always come late to get them and drop them off early or let grandma pick the kids up until they get home from work.

It grinds me when I ask the kids to do one thing and they run to their parents and say "Tell ____ that I don’t have to do that" and the parent actually tells me that the child doens’t have to do whatever it was I asked them to do. One family I have now the little boy hates to wear boots and hats and gloves when he goes outside and I always make him (when there is snow) and I was told he wasn’t going to be bringing them so I couldn’t make him wear them. HOW DUMB! Then they better not expect me to watch him when hen’s sick, major or minor illness. I just tell him now that if anyone wants to go outside they need to have all the gear or they stay inside and play. Needless to say the last time we had snow he brought all his stuff (after I made him stayin for an afternoon).

 

Your not a nag...but your trying to teach manners to a child who is getting no direction at home or at least it sounds that way to me.

 

I also have had kids who kick their parents, yell or fight with them when they come to get them, when they do that they go to the naughty corner the next day when they get here. They learn fast.