What a person needs to look at is who is doing the posting when these questions come up. This person is from Finland. They are not as wrapped up as we are about sexuality. To her, this is a perfectly normal question. To us, it is appalling. I just worry that we are offending people who could possibly be legit and then CAH gets a bad name because of our rudeness. We talk of God and ask for prayers on this site daily because we love our children. It is contradictory to claim to be Godly yet treat people unkindly. That is just my opinion, and believe me, this site is for venting and that is what you did. I cannot fault you for that. I do it too. Please do not feel bad, you have a right to your feelings. I am sure I have angered many on this board because of my posting, but I could not stand back without saying how I felt. This question will be asked repeatedly, we need to find a better way to deal with our answers than what is being posted. I really do pray that things get better for you Laura, but I am not sure I can be part of this board any longer, which is too bad for my son because I need support I will just have to try to find it somewhere else. Personally, I think she posted her question quite nicely. The answers were the problem.