Alicia,

I also have a son who is four who has swcah and I was unwed when I had him. I knew that in my heart that i did not want to be with him He was a good father he also had a 4yr old. But he was an alcholic also.  I can remeber when we would go somewhere and he would be drinking with his other son in the car. I was like what a good role model. Plus I know that he did smoke pot. But when we had our son I asked for him to sign off. But where I live in Indiana you cant have them sign off unless you get married. He only would come seen him about once a week if that. Then he would only stay for about 15 mins. He would hold him but he would be fussy.  The last time he came to see him was when he was 3 months old and he only stayed for about 1o mins. I am now married and I have two children with my husband now and he is in the process of adopting my son. My son only knows his dad now not his real dad. I did tell him of his real dad. I did not tell him anything bad at all. I just said that he did was he thought was best for you and he signed off his rights to you because he did not want to put the stress on you when ever you would have to go to his hosue or whatever. But my son knows he has a different dad and i told him that if he ever wanted to see him i would let him but only with me there!! I woudl think though in your case if you can prove that he is un fit dad and that he does drugs and his a alcholic that you will win custody. I will keep you and your family in my prayers!! I’m sure none of what i said is even close to what you are going through but I just thought i would shre my experince. I wish you well and God Bless you and your children!!!