Surgeons and Doctors realize that someone born like me is hard for some parents to accept and they realize it is traumatic. Just follow how you feel and don’t worry about anything else. If you decide surgery then it will help those that come after ...doctors are always learning. If you aren’t ok with the way she is born then it’s going to be hard for her. She is just born and y’all doing consults for the surgery? I pray that someone has told you all about adrenal crisis?