Michelle......I understand all the questions and uncertain feelings you have concerning your two year old Daughter. I think this is something we all fear after having surgery done on our children. But what I TRY and do is not dwell on the negatives that COULD?????? happen and focus on the positive that she is already experiencing (no urinary tract infections/negative self image of her genitals/fear of being different /ridicule from her peers and health professionals.) I have to believe that each child is different when it comes to surgery and feelings and nerve endings from surgery leaving you with less feeling. My question would be if you had not experienced the full degree of feeling EVER . How do you know it is less? I know  women who have a terrible time reaching a climax and some NEVER do unless self stimulated. This is not something that is documented in books and women talk freely about because we all think we will be less of a women if we don’t have the PERFECT sex life. It’s the self image thing. The media and books have us convinced unless we sream from the rafters with joy everytime we climax...we are less women. For the record how many of us have faked it in order to feed a mans ego and get it over with just to finish the job ourselves. I am sure MANY...but none would own such a statement. Sex as with many other things is formed with the love and bond and patience of a secure loving partner and until you have the relationship that you can share sex mentally , emotionally. verbally, and physically the rest is just sexual experiences trying to find ourselves and our sense of belonging and fitting in. THE NORM or what the world percieves as the NORM! I don’t doubt Stephs lack of feeling or her degree of sexual intimacy with herself and her partner. But I must say that the sex I encountered as a 22 year old and what I am experiencing with my loving husband at 55 is TOTALLY different. The point I am trying to make is that Steph and our children have a lifetime of making what they have and how they use it as great as it can possibly be. It comes with experience and comfort with ones self and self image! I don’t speak for everyone on this issue as SEX is a personal/private act and not everyone feels comfortable talking about it openly. But in the CAH world if the facts and the questions appear I think they deserve to be addressed. The most we can hope for is that the surgeon we chose had the dexterity and medical training and knowledge that the surgery he did on our daughters will leave them with enough sensation to enjoy a healthful fullfilling sex life that pleases THEM! Not what sex therapists and media and journals and magazines push us to believe we are suppose to experience. This is just my opinion.

Cherry