It’s not that I don’t want to answer these questions, its that I cannot. Every person is different and what happened with me does not mean it will happen to your daughter. I don’t know how I looked as a child down there and how it was has changed, my gyny said they did a really good job but from what I have seen to compare it to, I don’t believe it is ’normal’. How she deals with these feelings depends on your relationship with her, and what works for one parent doesn’t always work for the next because everybody is different in many many ways.

I do not have no feeling, but just very little. Hopefully things will change as my doctor works with me to get things the way they should be. I agree completely with Cherry on some things she mentioned. I imagine once I find a partner I love the endorphins kick in and everything will seem amazing on some level.

Your daughter may have to have dilators when she gets older but as Cherry said again, concentrate on what you have and how happy you can make her now. If you dwell on how she might feel in the future you are not being the best mother you can be.

Stick with this board as the people on it are very willing to help and answer your questions as they arise. Just try not to get ahead of yourself and concentrate right now on what you can do for your daughter now.