Dear Debbie,

I’m so glad that you were cool with all my posts another thing that you might be interested in reviewing is a condition called celiac sprue and the effect that it has on temperment irritability ...oh and how it affects height and so much more ; ) I have that condition also. What is it 1 in 134 people have it and it is just not diagnosed in the USA but that is changing. 

 ADHD very interesting topic there - read the good and bad about it with being put on the drugs. Read a story about a man that was put on those drugs but got himself off them and makes over a million a  year with his contracting business but also other people say it’s a life saver.

 For myself I made a point of going to 4 psychotrists and 3 psychologists. The heavy hitters in my county also. I had the dept head speak with me and also at this one place in the city they are responsible for referrals to the hospital for all the indigent people ....soooo lots and lots of mental heath issues seen by people with "combat" experience. I didn’t go to shrinks out in the suburbs handing out drugs to shut up house wives and kids that don’t fit the "mold."

All the people that I went to were very interested in the CAH and the thyroid condition (hashimoto’s) I was told that they didn’t find that I fit into any diagonostic criteria but had" a lot of medical s***to deal with" I was the one that brought up bi- polar and ADHD and they went ’no not really ..sorry " The one guy " don’t feel comfortable putting you on medication" and he also weny on about " 30 pound weight gain in a week" from the meds. 

I just wanted to share because I think I can relate to these threads. I don’t have have children but I do know that it helped me to be accountable for those rages because then i was able to see the other person and thus don’t want to blow because somewhere inside I am sensitive to others feelings.

There are people out there that  understand the rages but many don’t and they don’t need to see it ....I don’t like getting them upset. I’m perfectly comfortable with the raging ...i think it does blow off steam but also we have to get at sometime in our lives that jsut because one blows you aren’t going to get your way. Sometimes the rage comes because I don’t think others are listening to my satisfaction. Many times the rage is intentional....I work to reason that there is a much better way to talk than that rage but the rage is fun ...there I will admit it until you see the look on the other persons face that doesn’t get it or hear how confused they are ... I blew a possible friendship because this woman did something to bond and I did the rage thing ...idoit me.

 It seems like men understand it more than some women.....The ADHD I would keep it in mind but still look for other things. I think you seem cool so here is another thing - Not your kid but this was just me. It’s a love/ hate relationship based on survival but I know that after being good for the endo and his exams along with the medcial residents those feelings that I really had would internalize build up and come out sooner or later in other forms soemtimes it would blow and over times oooz out. I had my own business at ten (dog walker ) did OK in school but skipped it most of the time,  partied my way thru college and graduated in a field that I don’t relate to, and never been fired from a job.

I do hope this is normal kid stuff and not the rage that I’ve experience WHICH is nothing compared to the anger I have about the surgery done to me and the parade of medical residents and the endo puling apart my body so the could learn up ......yes, yes logic we did it for you needed to be done thought it was in your best interest ...yeah  I internalized all that anger and it started way back then... I hope it’s just ADHD or just normal kids stuff. There I hated them for what they did and would direct that rage out from time to time. I’ve felt that way in school ect ...made people turn away when the ones that helped got in my face got in my face and said nock it off or the ones that venetured to the back of the room becasue that kid is just a little to quiet. Nobody’s kid is going to be like this but this is just my perspective means nuttin.

Ohhhh here’s a goodie ....I might of been seven  and Grandma visiting from far far away turns off the TV stating nobody is watching this - she didn’t see me  and instead of asking her to turn it back on  ....me goes of in a huff causing a scene ...pick the biggest way to over react when we don’t have to better for someone to say now what would of been the better alternation ... I would of slowed down to pick one and learned to be better instead of ....instead of shhh we must just allow this.  This type of exterme thinking can be channeled in to better because the flip side of the same emotion is going out of your way to help as a child friends, animals and later co-workers or customers. I’m the one where if I’m called to come into work on my day off and a half hour before you need me I will 98% of the time ...maybe cusing moaning acting pissed until I sign in but I’m there for the team and the customers.

 I don’t know that a three year old could do this but I try before the rage- I can feel the build up- to repeat what wassaid or the sence senerio that is happening and this seems to help.  A three year old can’t process like this but I know who wants to make mommy and daddy sad? I like mommy and and daddy  : ) That’s the part when people look right into my eyes it breaks the rage .....excuse me ...I’m trying to rage here you are breaking that barrier grrrrrr smile I then can’t keep it up. The people that did that are the same ones that can rage at times themselves and go head to head at other times- my Dad : ) for one ...I liked that and was able to see that oh nooo everyone isn’t like that and I don’t want to hurt or make feel bad the people that aren’t that way...empathy was developed. It doesn’t aways work and sometimes it is to late but this is my feeling on it OR this is jsut kids stuff and disregard all this.

ADHD? DO KEEP IT IN MIND  : ) celiac sprue and casin are other things that you might find interesting. i have no trouble focusing on things that really get my interest like almost on the autisim spectrum. I can spend hours on things I like and one just needs a mentor in that area to help with confidence

Here’s another thing with the rage that always gets  me and I’ll complain to others .....oh the thoughtlessness  How dare heeeee. So the rage... hehe mirror back what is being raged about to her and just to see the other person acts throws  it really off .....Noooo you’re not saying it right!  You need to say GET OUT ! with much more passion ! and it makes one consider ohhh maybe this person gets it and I switch to more talking because I’m not getting the effect from the ranting and yet the person doesn’t push away ... Plus isn’t needing me to be a different me but change my direction of relationing. Some are  ohhh she isn’t happy nooo I’m not a sweet little muffin 24/7 not wired that way....I’ve told people "this is me happy!"  I got my game face on. Yes we are girls but if a little boy acted in a little rage then how would you deal with him. I love my coach bag and getting my hair colored but I am who I am. I love my Endo and I would kill anyone that would harm him or his staff : )  Is there anymore love than that ?this is how strong my feeling are and it gets me because the nurse for example thinks that because for what ever reason maybe my height that I should always be sweet happy and others seem to think this way to .....you seem angry?  and I’m not but just full of intense energy that wants to explain  but they ver away and I lose   ....The sweet sweet way  I feel like a fake  fool ...others like it and the Endo doesn’t expect that from me buy that man a beer !!!  What I try is blend the two sides together and poof that is gold ...plus raging isn’t there - I’m very good at understanding others raging and not trying to get them to be something else. Also I find that the rage energy can move one forward in a positive direction but also put in the wrong direction can make things worse ...although at the time seemed fun to do in a bad way. "You’re .....you’re overeacting" ........nawwww i meant this  and the weid thing is that I can rage but I’ve gotten my blood pessure checked right after and it’s still low.  

 

I don’t waaanaaa !!!! yeah yell and yell but you goota do it anyway.

"Despite all my rage I’m still just a rat in a cage" great song

I remember when I used to watch me neice and nephew - I made them hold hands at the mall and they were like six and eight or something. They looked at me like I was crazy and I told them yep ...do it or we are going back to the car - they held hands . Darned if I was going to lose those kids ...i liked those kids and my sister would of killed me ...we ain’t close as it is.  I’m nice but one follws what I say- little things like that and big things is where that energy can be pointed in the right direction.   

 

Good luck