I think that is one of the very few downfalls of seeing the Psychologist at the Conference I attended.  I didn’t appreciate the statistics pushed on us about the boys toys and babies thing.  It is like a possible "self-fulfilling prophecy" if you take it too seriously.  It is unfortunate that that was placed in the back of my mind and each time my daughter does something really girlish it is like "hey, that is a girlish thing to do and I am glad she is doing it".  I probably wouldn’t have thought of it that way otherwise and try to keep it out of my mind now. 

One thing that helped me a lot was this board.  I recall in the beginning when I came here, Danny said his daughter played with trucks or trains or something (like my daughter has since 9 months has been obsessedwith Thomas the Tank Engine) but she made them talk to each other.  I don’t have a boy so I wouldn’t have seen the difference (not that it truly matters) But that is exactly what my daughter does. I might not have seen these things as a whole if he hadn’t mentioned it then. 

 Incidentally, my daughter just turned 4 years old and she likes pretty much everything kids like in general.  I never was into girlie things so I didn’t really know how to introduce them to my daughter (never did my nails, spent time primping, played with Barbies, etc.)  but my neighbor and her daughter do and so I was blessed that they introduced these things to her naturally and she loves them...and through her, now, so do I.

She loves babies.  She loves primping (at the moment).  She loves trains.  She loves Karate.  She loves cars.  She loves it all.  If anything, I would rather see them  study the underlying mixture of hormones that show that CAH can make you so much more well rounded than most people I know.  My daughter can play with kids of either sex and be interested in whatever they are doing rather than being more interested in one or the other.  It exposes her to more in life and, in turn, will give her a better foundation in making future decisions for herself. 

Now if she would just try different vegetables...(grumbling as I go make dinner)

Heh.  Thanks, aimee...for continuing to speak openly and freely.

 

RebeccaM