Yeah, the genital inspections were a dead give away. Had so many men and women with their hands on my gential are when I was a child and then the Endo swooping in and doing the same thing.  

Who are they checking for and why is it such interest to them. Making you look normal ...for whom ? errr i was a child ....observing your structual anatomy again for whom? me or their curiosity?   big smile from them with how they really like how "the surgery" ( in this day and age clitoral recession, vaginoplasty looks.) "Here put this gown on and take your panties off" and the only worth you are to them is what is between your legs you are a curiosity to us with genital exams- she’ll get the message.

What a lot for a child to deal with all these people pushing that your genitals which for children should be private are an interest for adults to view ...we wanted you to look normal and again normal for whom ? or you can go another way and you be the one to tell the doctors of any hair coming up and let the blood work speak  for itself  geeez if it’s surgery is supposed to be better wait until she is a teen to talk about this  you people blow away the  innocence of childhood with the surgery and the genital inspections. If the surgeon wants to stick his fingers in for dialation? be sure to give her some good drugs.

The surgery is supposed to be better these days so why not wait until the age when kids learn about Sex ed in school around age 13? This is just my opinion and means nothing compared to the experts that are correct.

As a nine year old the we are going to see the doctor and you are going to have your vagina looked at served only to instill anxiety - didn’t matter how good the endo was and he is a good person that tried to do everything right or if Mommy was in the room (didn’t make it better ). When comes down to it you are a child and your most private area is theirs to monitor and judged when you want to just be. Kids learn about sexual developement around 13 and why should this be forced on us sooner?You want us to be normal girls and we are so why go into earlier? You could bring up "the surgery" again don’t know what surgery you mean but if she was born with a completely  fused labia then bring up the vaginoplasty and labia plasty in relation to needing surgery for the flow of a period and the is logical and has a point with the focus of her and not what she can do for others.

Had to deal with so much interest in the area that it took away innocense. By the time sex ed came around in school? it was nothing to me and I was years ahead which I regret because the exams and  surgery stole that from me. "Here is a gown and take your panties off" I can still remember those nurses saying that to me and how it forced something on me that I wasn’t ready for. What is the point of talking about whatever surgery was done before she is a teen? I’m not an expert but you did ask an opinion from the internet. I would talk about what was done to her during the same time I would talk about don’t have sex until you are married, STD’s and  don’t kiss anyone either because the herpes I virus that 80% of the public has may actually put someone with CAH in the hospital.   

This is your kid and you need to do what you feel is best.

take care