I don’t believe this person was asking whether or not she/he should have surgery for their daughter. 

Secondly. I personally ask my daughter if any kind of exam makes her uncomfortable and tell her the day it does, she doesn’t have to have an exam. I don’t care if they are looking at her butt to her vagina, to her breasts, to her nose. If it makes her uncomfortable, she has the power to tell me NO. I think it is absolutely necessary to convey this to every child, CAH or not. With or without CAH, every parent should go over the touching rules.

 I feel terrible that all of the adults felt this way as a child. I am glad you can share your experience with us so we can be more aware that it can be an uncomfortable situation and that they need to talk with their children about this. I believe examination of the genitals still needs to take place with or without surgery so the endocrinologist can make sure the medication is working so avoiding surgery to avoid genital exams doesn’t prevent the exam.    

Also, using a dialator. We were never given this choice, and if I would I know I wouldn’t choose it. I think that would be mentally hard for the child. Do they even do that practice anymore? I hope not.