I will go as far as I think I can get away with or control in any given situation. I think this does have something to do with agression but would liketo think assertiveness in the best situations. This not understood or funneled into positive productive outlets may be disastrous.

I worked at a resteraunt with cooks that the managers were scared of and when I would bring food back to be re heated and then come back for it, I would be blown off and told you will get the food when we are good and ready which then the food would be given back burnt. I then walked into the kitchen all 5’1 butterball that I am or maybe skinny back then and bellowed you will give me my Food NOW! you hear me NOW and huge men would have that food for me and it was pretty. They would see me coming and that food was in the window waiting for me. I was also welcomed back there to heat food myself and get vege’s because I asserted that was what I wanted to do and also it helped them by getting things. Have mouth but am a team player - Plus the cooks liked that I was such a little crazed nut : ) lucky me and they called me Chucky from that movie and were very open to getting me help them prep food and learn. I like to cook becuae of this experince and if it wasn’t for the getting ticked that my food wasn’t coming in a manner that I liked then this never would of happened. Another time at a different place that I worked the manager and other employess wanted to give the customer a *rap piece of fish and I after asking noooooo we can do better for then and I’m not serving them that $%#& i wouldn’t pay  $ for it I went nuts as you all would call those mood swings tears ranting raving because I like customers.

I never did nuttin really ; )  as a kid  because my mother would have this look and nuff said there. Yes, I was given a longer leash than my bothers and sister but I was also the youngest but I know what you are all talking about and it can be dealt with - I don’t think it goes away but can be dealt with  lol ... I used a positive example up there because negative experiences  not good ..... I remember once this guy fliped me off while driving and I followed him - I wasn’t going to do anything but I was going over curbs following him ended up getting him cornered. I laughed and then took off.

I made this little retail manager jump. Saw fears in her eyes lol I think someone took a swing at her one time. She was just so annoying ....Noooooo not that box and I dropped the box and with my birthright of a spash of androgens looked at her and stated in the most firm voice and what box do YOUUUUUUU want me to pick Upppppppp with the most quitest voice she went errrrrr that one was OK. I like people and never would hurt anyone  we look sweet and nice and I think it is a surprise that we can go from really really nice to well not   lol  and that is just the way it is but how you apply it really is up to you. You can use that part of yourself to move you forward or you can use it to run yourself into the ground or make and arse of yourself.     

Good luck