i do not think you are a neurotic mom, you are a loving mom who wants the best for your child. at that age of a child you need to watch them closely, when they are sick.  my parents spent many of sleeples nights when i was very young, they said they would that turns watching me during the night.  when i got older i could let them know when it was bad, and would take me to the hosiptal (they didn’t have stress shots back then to use at home).  now, when i get sick i will take extra dose and ask my partner to wake me up ever couple of hours, just to make sure i am still ok and not going into a crisis.  crisis can happen so fast.  once when i was an adult about 15 year ago, i was living alone, i got sick, took an stress dose and compizine(for my stomach upset) and went to sleep i woke up at the hosiptal from the worst crisis that i can remember.  a co-worker called me at home and said i answered the phone, i said "help", i don’t rememer answering the phone.  she called 911 and got some help for me.  if she did not call my house and if i did not answer the phone i am sure i would have died that day. i will never live alone again, that scared me that much.

if i had a child at any age i would wake them up ever  three to four hours while they are sick just to make sure they are not getting sicker.  not all crisis do you run a high fever.  how i would do it i would ask them question, because when you are in a crisis you can not answer any question that makes any kind of sense.

i hope this helps everyone some.  you are all so brave, i choose not to have children because i was afraid i would have a cah and not be a good parent.  i wish i would have had a cah child now, but i lost my turn.