I’ve found that a lot of people who are racist to others always cry racism about how others treat them. Really everyone needs to quit judging others, there isn’t just one race that is raciest.  If your husband had said anything to her like that would she have said he was racist or not?  I’ve always thought it was unfair that I am judged because of my color and things that people did years before that I have had no control over. It’s sad but if we don’t all let it go racism will never end. :(