how i lost weight is i started to accpet being over weight.  i stop all those crazy diets and just accepted who i am.  now i have lose 45 pounds.  i need to lose more, but i have cushioning disease which one of the symtons is a very big arms and waist, so this is who i am a big lady.  they say big people will live after a bad car accdent, we have more padding.

i hope this helps you.