I agree with you both. I just felt bad when my husband told her that she couldn’t bring her son over if he was sick. They don’t understand (they as in sister in law and her parents whom she lives with) that my daughter has such a struggle with being sick. They just see it as, oh we all get colds so what? I also understand that she will get sick sometimes regardless if he is over here sick or not. You can pick illnesses up anywhere. They also don’t understand the whole "keep yourself home if you are sick" point. Like one of you said, it’s not to be rude.

As for my sister in law, she is very lazy. If her son has a well check, and she’s tired she either has her mother take her son or she just doesn’t take him. He’s 20 months old and just had his 6 month shots in November! She also doesn’t dress him for the weather. Last night she took him out in a tshirt and slippers and it wasn’t warm! She said his dead beat father has asthma as well as his sister, and she also smoked while she was carrying him. She also smokes with him in the car, which is a whole other ball of wax! They thought maybe he had asthma as his Dad and Aunt have but with a fever how can it be? I don’t know how asthma comes about but I don’t think a fever is involved.

Anyways I am rambling here. And don’t apologize because you feel you sound harsh. I wholeheartedly agree with you both. Keep him at home! She’s taking him to the doctor this morning. Her work let her leave early which is good. Hopefully she gets this kid some relief once and for all!