My husband always says, "You get what you get" and it is jjust that simple.  Eveyone has something "less than ideal" to deal with.  We may not know what it is, but it’s there.  There is no comparing to be done.  We all get what we get and the only  thing we can control is how we deal with it.  So every day, count your blessings, and make the most of every moment.  I have my own health issues and 2 out of our 3 kids have SWCAH.  Our 3rd child has a rare vascular disorder.  But we are blessed to have each other, and have a wonderful life. It’s just part of who they are and who we are as a family.   None of it has slowed us down!