No don’t be so worried. My daughter loved Thomas the Tank when she was that little. Never touched a baby doll, but asked for one for Christmas when she was 7. yet only played with it a few times. She does have a huge collection of Barbies and Bratz dolls though. As far as the clip thing goes, what toddler truly likes any clips in their hair? It took a long time to get my neice that is almost two, to leave hers alone. We would have to distract her constantly when we would clip that wad of hair out of her eyes.  My daughter didn’t care about the pony tails, but hated any clips at that age. They hurt. So the retaliation is probably because she is a toddler. As far as the dresses, if they are itchy and uncomfortable, well there you go with that too. My mother in law would find these beautiful dresses for my daughter, yet by the end of the day, she would have a rash under her arms from wearing them. I myself HATE putting on a dress or skirt and sliding into those itchy nylons. Does it worry my mother? No. My daughter is 9 years old today. Has mostly boys that are friends and a couple of really close girl friends.  But again, so did I in high school. I played football with my brothers. Well ok sometimes I had no choice they needed someone to tackle. But I loved it. My mom never worried. She just worried the boys would hurt me. (but my dad made sure they didn’t he he he) My daughter loves the go cart my husband got us to ride. She loves sparkly stuff, loves a stylin mini skirt, hates dresses because she says they are for babies. So every person is different and don’t waste her childhood worrying about things you have no control over anyway. When my daughter loved Thomas, we bought tickets to go ride the REAL Thomas the Train. Didn’t want any stupid conductor hate, but LOVED the train. She loved her construction sets, and her hot wheels. Everyone is designed differently, thank God. I had neighbor girls that one was a tom boy and the other was a prissy girl with high heels, and purses. They turned out to be beautiful happy women. Enjoy her. Don’t analyze her every move because before you know it she will be grown up, and your time worrying was wasted when you could be playing right beside her hot wheels, or construction set. We never made it an issue because it never was an issue.  So go dig out those hot wheels and rev it up mom!