I understand your worry.  My daughter is 10 now, with SWCAH.  When she was in nursery school, she used to say "I’m a boy, not a girl", and "why did you give me a girl name".  She definitely is more a tomboy now, then she would wear dresses at least!  I was very worried for awhile, but was told not to worry and was reassured.  Turns out we were having difficulty controlling her levels, she would be undersuppressed, then oversuppressed, and her behavior was definitely difficult.  Now she is going through puberty and so far so good!  At 10, she’ll wear a miniskirt and shirt with her belly showing, but mostly she’s jeans and a t-shirt, and does any sport she can get her hands on!  Hang in there!