I agree with Buggs. If you, yourself make it an issue, then in the end, it will be an issue. What does Dr. Phil say? When we are children and our parents or caregivers or even school mates tell us things, for example, "You are such a trouble maker, your such a looser, why can’t you be like your brother?" Or "your fat, your ugly, your stupid" And we start to play these "tapes" in our heads, and soon start to believe them and we carry them into adulthood. The children look to their parents for reasurrance on just about everything. If you keep giving her feed back that it is wrong to play with boy things, she will soon think she is living her life wrong. And your actions can speak louder than words, so don’t think because you are silent about it, she can’t pick up on that either. You need to come to terms with this. Throw out what every little "article or research" has said. As far as research goes, hey if you took ANY 50 people off the street, a percentage will be gay. So if they take 50 CAH women, they will find the same. Is it the CAH? The scientists want to blame it because when you put it all on paper, it looks pretty good. Well guess what, not everything is what it seems. If for once all those studies would point their energies to medicating our children properly so they can live in a good balance, we wouldn’t have to worry about their growth, height, weight, ect.

As far as you getting the impression that these girls are forcing themselves to be girls I think you are looking at the cup half empty. I know CAH is stressful. I know having a child with CAH can worry you to death, but at some point you have to learn to let go of every worry or you are not only going to miss out on your daughter’s life, but your own. We all worry, but then there is a point you need to let go of that worry for the health of your child AND you. You just got over the mountain called surgery! Enjoy your peace for a while. I finally agreed that I would only worry when my daughter gets sick. If I continued to worry about every aspect of CAH I was killing myself and missing out on the beauty God had given me. My daughter. We can all worry ourselves to death with our children with or without CAH. If I stop and think about all the dangers that are out there, I would loose it. I think if you go with the flow, and you allow your daughter to play with boyish things, there won’t be an issue of her trying to be a girl. Who is she trying to please especially at this point? She is who she is. Society has really placed our lives in black and white. If a girl plays with army men, UGH, a gay future for SURE. If a boy plays with dolls, the same for him. WHAM stamp this kid gay. My sister in law got a doll buggy for Christmas when she was little. She emptied it and filled it with water to wash her set of Western play guns. She grew up excepted by all. AND married my brother. I played football with my brothers, cried my eyes out because my mom curled my hair for one Christmas. Am I gay? No. Let go J. Let go and enjoy your baby girl.