Yes, I am the one who was concerned about how my daughter did not want to do girly things.  Maybe because when I looked to Isna for support all she could do was go on and on about how I should prepare myself that my daughter would be lesbian.  This is a shame because the woman running ISNA could be helping people to feel comfortable going against the advice of the doctors, but instead she has turned it into a gay rights issue.  Because my daughter is a tomboy does that mean my daughter will be gay?  That was my question.  A stupid one, but who can blame me when most health professionals are so ignorant and only interested in the genital and or gay issue.  Excuse me for going on and on about my daughter and her clitoris which your right I did not think was that big.  But others might not agree.  I thought that is what this forum was for.  Do you think my daughter would have been happy living with painful erections?  You know I’ve seen some nasty responses from other people to you and I have always felt and stated that I appreciated your story.  I have never minded you going on and on about howyou were told to slide up and down on a doctors finger.I never copped out on the follow up.  She already had one 2 months ago.   Thanks for the tip on therapy, I bet every other parent worries every day about how their child will feel in the future about their decision rather they waited or did surgery.  Yes there are many studies showing poor outcome  I spent hours researching and reading them last year.  However that study was from Royal children’s hospital on newer techniques.  You are probably a Sara Creighton fan.  I know she has her own fan page.  Do me a favor and don’t say I succumed to pressure to make my daughter fit a mold.  I could give a rat’s ass if her clitoris is big.  The erections were hurting her because her clitoris had grown and I heard more than one story of other girls complaing about this I know you have too.  I know you never support reduction and I respect that.