Danny

Her view might be different if she was asked or wanted genital surgery.

 

I want a doctor to have some empathy and be encouraging  but not sympathetic.

If I see a doctor as human

or they let me see them as a person 2 or 20 years later?

and they make or made a mistake? or didn’t listen to me the patient?

but they show their true personality?

It’s easier to forgive  a little and realize how hard the job is instead of calling them butchers and medical rapist (I had no choice) if they then show themselves as human. I thought the surgeon was a boogyman whereas he and everyone else thought he was good doctor helping a child with a birth defect and thought since he was a good kind thoughtful man that I would think his finger dialation when i was eleven was less traumatic compared to the ones that got the regular dialators. I thought he was a monster that I had better smile and be good or who knows - after all he had altered my body when I had in good faith to adults  packed my own little suitcase to get his version of what I should look like ...wasn’t my body anymore but rather his and the endo who proudly showed me off to residents.  The only thing that made some  difference was these men understanding that what they did was wrong but from their voices being human finally ...I then could feel that they were human and not monsters to me but just men that meant well.  I feel not real like this young person but maybe if we had a voice it would of been different.