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re: re: Your right Betsy it's Dana Rush Mar. 1st, 2005 11:05pm
Betsy- I could care less about the history of why you changed your name the point is you make parents feel attacked by your GENERIC words. I wanted in some way to show you how it feels to have someone question something that you obviously felt you wanted like changing your name. You are basically a public figure of some sorts maybe the fact that your name was changed isn't as private as you thought. You say your post are pretty generic. I don't have to take COMPASSION 101 to realize statements like parents that ask about surgery on their children need a lobotomy also! The fact that you love to use the word MUTILATE when you are speaking of a decision that I know most parents spent many restless nights with racked nerves trying to decide on. Betsy I didn't say you looked masculine because I give a s---! I said it because I have been holding back for a while yes it might be poor taste, immature, or just plain wrong but I have been made feel hurt by many of your post. No Betsy you have never came out an addressed me when speaking of surgery but you might as well have. I do take your comments very personally I am not scared of the term intersex, I don't have a problem with sexual preference. I will love my daughter no matter what she feels like, looks like etc. I didn't have the surgery because I didn't love my daughter the way she was I had it as many other parents and grandparents did for my daughter! I am not offended because I cannot handle the fact that my daughter could be intersex I am offended because I know her genitals were a result of her medical condition. My daughter is not a hermaphrodite, intersex, or any other bull s---! lingo you might have in your head! My daughter is a beautiful, full of life child that has changed my world in so many ways I don't think I could put them all down in words! My experience with CAH has made me develop a stronger love for all of my children. I am not going to put a label on my daughter ever! I don't know if anyone else has felt this way but you have mentioned many times about dr's looking and genitals and it's just to check for abuse or a thrill I suppose that sickens me! When you strictly concentrate on making comments about intersex, gender issues and such it's almost perverse to me that you do have CAH and that is the only thing you seem to have a passion to speak about and throw out to parents, grandparents and the media! Let's concentrate more on saving some children thru expanded newborn screening vs. labeling the children boys and girls that were lucky enough to get a diagnosis! As I stated earlier feathers might be ruffled and I know some people do not agree with homosexuality. I would prefer my daughter grow up and marry and be able to experience the joy of birth and give me many grand baby's. I think every parent tends to wish for a smooth transition into adulthood for their children. But if my daughter or any of my children 100% feel that they have met their soul mate within their own sex I will still love my child as I do today. Until then I am going to let my daughter be what she was when she was born a little GIRL!
