Hey J,
I've been ready along and you will find your answer and do what you feel is the best for your child.
I wanted to add about what Mr. Carlton wrote about finding someone that accepts you for who you are and how very true that is. If someone can't accepts CAH - everything about it then that isn't the person to be with period. If they think less of you for that or are as you put it "horrified " and as another mother wrote to me once "ewww gross " then they aren't going to connect on an even level and being with someone in a relationship like that is doomed. Like me for who I am and all my conditions (I have more than CAH) not is spite of them. I don't know if you'll get where I'm coming from with this but it is an important thing and who would want to be with someone that felt in a negative way about your birthdefect that you had no control over ..you aren't good in his eyes for that and then it will be something else and something else. I had one guy try that with me and I was out the door so fast and the only thing I missed was his car. I am 40 pounds over weight and the men that i date and tell about this condition - are awesome but we are all terrified of marriage because so many end in divorce. I been also told by just guy friends ( who go thru women) that when you find "the one" that all the scars that you come with don't matter because the person wants you. I know married men that have beautiful blond wives but they have an eye out for someone else because the wife has no inner self ..is hollow and they are bored.
Anyway missionary position? That is sweet....and I had to think about that one for a second Oh yes that is the on that happens for about two seconds before you venture on to all the many other positions ...Oh gosh you made me smile.
I've also brought up that some with CAH are born with an enlarged clitoris on the way to telling them when I was born the docs went what the heck is that : )
The enlarged clitoris was of interest to them and no in a bad way - it was imagine the orgasms and I could find the darn thing. Super- size me.
Cherry,
Your Grand- Daughter will understand because of the degree of virilization.
