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re: re: re: re: I need some advice. Mar. 29th, 2007 11:18am
Hi JM! I think you are right to be concerned that your daughter can't make an informed choice about her body at this age. Children, even very intelligent children, have not yet developed the ability to process, compute, and predict long term consequences of their choices. While researching surgery this is something I found to be a tightrope. If they are too young, they don't understand the implications of not having sexual feeling. By time they are old enough to understand this, their hormones may trigger irrational decisions.
I agree with the other posters. You need to make the choice based on what you feel is best. You are the mother, follow your gut. If your goal is still to prevent your daughter of being ashamed of who she is or what she looks like, I think you need to really listen to her voice. She is feeling self conscience of how she looks now, if you deny her request to change it, will it worsen? I'm not a doctor of the mind, body, or spirit, but I could see her perception of her body changing if she feels she wants the surgery and is denied. Also, surgical procedures are better and continue to improve all of the time.
I know it is hard. I admire your strength. I hope you find peace with the choice you make.
