Wanted to add that and this is a plus in that the area is smaller ummm tight because of the CAH and that is a plus. Any surgeries really don't make things that much bigger.
The biggest trouble that I had and still do is having the feeling of the genital exams that were done as a child and teen . The clitorectomy that was done ruined many things and I had to lean to take intimacy to a higher level to get away from what the well meaning doctors destroyed. I have lots of anger about they way I was treated as a teaching tool but I think medicine is listening a little now but it doesn't change the past and the past does determine the future.
You will find that men are caring and loving as they have chosen to be with you or if just a booty thang then they also are pretty fine with it and the best is when the get angry with me about the past ......remember they are with you and you aren't your condition. I've explained CAH many was from comparing it to soup missing ingredient (cortisol) to a car break part system. I've had men tell me things that they would never tell anyone else because I told them about CAH.
Anyone that is negative about your condition will use that a wedge in marriage and it's a very good chance THEY will be boring in bed anyway.
You also might find that someone might reject you and it has nothing to do with the CAH. I have a stronge personality ....a little intense and that is the part that is Ohhhhh.....as I don't like the quiet ones that follow me like a puppy dog and do as I say nor the ones that I'm pretty matched because then it is a power play in that area to me but I'm getting a little better about that one as the men that have stronger personalities then me? tend to be to much ☺ I had one boyfriend back in the day say that one of us is the guy and it's going to be me! We agreed that it was a 49/51 relationship and sometimes he was the 51% and other times I was. This helped his man ego.
I'm my own person and know who I am and where I'm going besides having an awesome sense of humor - I was born with Simple Virilizing CAH went through crap for that and really would of been better off left alone, and later on Hashimoto's thyroiditis, Celiac Sprue, and Adendocervical Carcinoma. I've talked about conditions and one can like me or not and those are things that I can't change.
I'll tell you though that when I talk about CAH and the other conditions to people is that they really don't know about all of these conditions and that they ask me how I'm feeling. I told people that I worked with at different jobs about CAH becuase I'm a little moody at times and they went upset and they would ask about how I felt and understood the moody and compared it to their own stuff. I told a bunch of guy aquantances about CAH and they told me about there relatives with conditions besidesalso being concerned with my health ....."Do you get adrenal crisis easier if you drink to much?" I told a different doctor also about the Hashi thyroid and my feelings but he dismissed me because I wasn't quiet and demure " ...So much to learn here ....." yea, to much for him with CAH, hashi ect. but other people have been fine with it all. I think an issue for me is that once I tell them ...it was like crap %^^$& still have these conditions and the feelings about them.
I've been asked about marriage a couple of times but I neded to figure myself out first and I have finally.
People will work with your CAH and if not? they lack something inside themselves and you don't need then anyway.
aimee
