The 80's then wouldn't she be 28? Maybe she is working on her own interest monitary and personal wise.
I'm sorry but they will always go but surgeries are better now but some doctors in England will differ on this one and that is no different then other medical procedures as well.
One has to find peace sooner or later. They and you did what you all thought was best at the time.
I wasn't the daughter my Mom invisioned either but it's Ok.
If she is Ok with this then maybe one day you can be as well.
All genitals do look different.
Maybe you would benefit from a therapist that is experience in medical issues?
Everything that you write is on the mark for feeling about dealing with CAH and thank you for being real because I agree that CAH is given this gloss over vs other conditions that I have.
They never ask because in my opinion they need to keep up this appearence.
Maybe your experince would benefit cares foundation? www.caresfoundation.org
take care ok -