Hello again,
Firstly, I really hope that your friends realize that although you may be laughing with them, it does start to take its toll on the inside. I will say that alot of girls tend to grow out of the superficial bickering, and teasing phase. They'll soon come to realize that it gets them nowhere. Unfortunately its people like us that have to ask how long?'.....It's not fair, and there is very little you can do about other peoples actions.....BUT if you can control how you react, then that is probably the best way to change things.
I remember the teasing about being bigger than everyone else. I also remember the teasing about being short and smart. I figured that if I didn't show a reaction....if I simply replied "and.....?" to their statements like "hahaha, your fat!" it means they have to find a justifiable reason to back up why they've said it in the first place. Generally bullies don't expect to be put in place by logic. They do it to get a reaction, and by turning the tables to your advantage, your not only able to show that you can calmly control your reaction.....you'll also start to show that you don't care, and nor should they.....after a while they get sick of having to answer their own questions so they stop.
I won't say that this is foolproof. But if you can find a way of staying strong and calm you become a much better person in the long run. You'll also probably find that people will respect you alot more, because you don't bully in return. I figured, from my own expereinces that I didn't want to hurt people the way that I had been by people at school....and because of that - when they all grew out of their silly little stages.....I was the type of friend that everyone wanted to have.
I just reread your first post. I won't say that eating every second day is healthy. Infact you generally don't loose weight like that. I tried it. Instead it slows down your metabolism, so that when you do eat your body thinks that you've been starving so it stores it all as fat instead of eating it all up as good energy.
For me, when I was about 13 or so, I started weight watchers with my mum....it was easy and really worth it. I lost heaps of weight. My medication went down, and then i lost more weight. (in the end it was hard to not keep on loosing it because I was eating the right type of foods and the right amounts).
Perhaps if you really are that desperate, you might want to look into something like that. I'd say talk to your mum or doctor - they'd have the best answers.
I really hope everything works out well for you.
If there is any other questions, or if you want more info....please don't hestitate. Take care, hope to hear from you soon
Anna
